|The perfect ring. The perfect dress. The perfect wedding day. The
perfect honeymoon... And they lived happily ever after!
If marriage was like that, we wouldn't need pre-marital counselling.
|What To Consider Before Marriage
|1. Plan your marriage, not just your wedding.
Take a proactive role in dreaming together, setting short
and long-term goals together, and then working
together as a team to establish the marriage you really
2. Juggle your roles.
With both partners being so busy inside and outside the
home, there is a need to negotiate how the roles of
marriage will be delegated.
3. Gain the skill of effective communication.
Healthy communication involves more listening than
talking. Do you know how to hear your partner, not just
their words? Do you know how to fight fair? Do you
know your partner's love language?
4. Consider intimacy issues.
We don't like to talk about it much, yet eventually the
honeymoon ends. How can a couple prepare to keep this
aspect of their marriage fulfilling while balancing the
responsibilities of everyday life?
5. Manage you finances.
Does your partner have the same view of money as you
do? Are you thrifty and your partner a wild spender?
What about the budget? Money in itself is not what
stresses the relationship - it is the management of money
that makes or breaks the bank.
6. Be ready for the babies.
Children change a marriage. Each person brings in his or
her own preconceived ideas and expectations about what
proper parenting is. Who should stay home with the
children? How should the children be disciplined?
Who's religion should they be brought up in? How many
children do you want?
7. Ask the tough questions.
Everyone has a past and it is critical to recognize that it
comes with you into the marriage. Are you hiding some
earlier difficult or painful experience from your partner
thinking it will not affect your relationship? Better to risk
talking about it now, than waiting until it finds its way
into your marriage uninvited.
|WALK TOGETHER MARRIAGE
|When you walk together, you stay together!
A Short-term Investment for a LIFETIME Dividend
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